If you’re the type who loves “rustic” or “boho” wedding themes… move along, you won’t find anything here to guide you. The internet is overflowing with sites, blogs, and Pinterest boards covering these topics.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that’s ugly, quite the opposite! I’m just a little tired of seeing wooden crates, burlap, and macramé everywhere.
A wedding is the union of two people (at least). Two entities forming a third = the couple. Two worlds meet and create a third, in their image! Your wedding celebration should reflect exactly that: your quirks, your similarities, and above all, what makes your relationship unique.
I believe choosing a theme shouldn’t be taken lightly, nor should it simply follow the latest trend.
Note: I see some hairs standing up at the mention of “wedding theme.”
Everyone has a theme! Even those who decide not to have one!
Yes, yes.
When you choose coordinated colors, flowers, ambiance, venue, etc., you’re already deciding on a theme…
So, to sound a little more trendy, let’s talk about “concept,” “style,” or “wedding design.” (But deep down, it’s all the same thing…)
Here are some ideas to find a theme that truly fits your couple!
Where to Start
Before diving into the internet, blogs, and Pinterest boards (we all do it, myself included!), the first thing to do is put your phone down and look around. By observing your home and your relationship, you’ll quickly find what defines your union and makes it special.
What’s Your Universe?
You love motorcycles, metal, and minimalism. They love mountain hikes, rock music, and collecting old radios. You’re seriously not going to go with a “chic countryside” theme, even if Auntie lends you her barn!
The good news? That barn can be styled in countless ways that highlight your personalities—through decor, lighting, and staging.
Tip: I often borrow furniture and decor from couples and use them to style the tables, bar, or buffet at the wedding.
The Union of Two Personalities
I’ve often seen stunning decorations in colors that seem straight out of one partner’s imagination.
Maybe not everyone loves a 100% gingham or 100% Star Wars theme. But I’m sure a bridge between two universes is entirely possible. Some combinations even yield surprising and beautiful results.
For inspiration, check out Rock n Roll Bride, which showcases weddings that merge two worlds.
The main idea: find the one thing in common. Seriously, you’re getting married, you probably have at least one shared interest! Food? A music genre? An activity? A region? A series?
The Common Thread
What connects you should be your main storyline. Choosing a Festival Wedding, an eco-conscious wedding, or a wedding on a boat gives your union a strong symbol, grounded in that shared passion.
Your Particularities
Maybe one of you wants to honor your cultural or geographic roots. Perfect, it can guide your wedding’s narrative.
Or perhaps your partner wants their love of gastronomy to take center stage at the reception. Excellent!
Now, let’s see how your unique traits can intersect:
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“A wedding on a boat with Indian-inspired decor and saffron scallops.”
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“A Festival Wedding with salsa dancing and tapas.”
Cool, right? It can be obvious or subtly integrated. It’s up to you!
No Compromises
The goal isn’t to highlight differences but to focus on what unites you as a couple. Want a seaside wedding while your partner dreams of a castle? Find a castle by the water!
When tastes are completely opposite, emphasize what you share. Respect each other’s preferences, and even if one partner is indifferent to decor or music, get their final approval. It’s their wedding too!
The Season
A mermaid wedding on the beach in winter, or a hot chocolate-and-blankets theme in 40°C heat… let’s just say, be realistic. But ultimately, it’s your call.
Your Guests
Always consider your guests! No weddings deep in the forest if you have elderly or mobility-impaired guests, or if it might get muddy.
Break conventions, yes, but your guests’ comfort comes first.
I love heavy metal, but not everyone will. Plan key moments to enjoy it without bothering too many people.
Treat yourself—but remember, you invited these people to share a good time. Otherwise, just elope, on a mountaintop or the other side of the world. For guidance, see: How to Plan an Elopement.
Elegance
Robert’s dictionary defines elegance as: “Aesthetic quality of what is harmonious, graceful in simplicity.”
Keep it simple! No need to overthink. Your theme should reflect your lifestyle… just a little more festive.
Elegance is personal, and everyone has a unique style. But remember some basics: color harmony, common sense, and good taste—even if these are relative.
In Summary
Do as you please at each step, but a good theme should consider:
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Your shared interests
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Each partner’s particularities
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Respect for each other’s tastes
While also paying attention to:
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The season
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Your guests
And always with:
Elegance.
And there you have it!
